🍷THE HIDDEN DESIRE BEHIND ALCOHOLISM: FALLING INTO MOM’S ARMS

Good morning, dear reader; today I want to talk to you about the hidden desire behind alcoholism...

Behind addictions, there is almost always an unresolved conflict with mom, and from this unhealthy relationship comes a deep internal devaluation caused by overprotection, explicit or implicit rejection, humiliation, manipulation, and control.

Many times, as adults, we find ourselves repeating the same patterns that caused us so much pain in childhood. Emotional wounds are also passed down from generation to generation when they remain unhealed.

Alcoholism is a very deep wound. It’s not about pleasure or fun; it’s about feeling a profound disconnection from our soul, reflected in an inner emptiness and emotional needs that make us want to "escape" from the reality of sadness and pain. It’s a desire to evade because the internal pain is too strong. It is a mistaken way of seeking "support" to find the longed-for peace.

The state of internal unhappiness and lack of tools to overcome addiction creates codependency. Addiction stimulates neurotransmitters such as dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins in the body, producing pleasure. The person seeks in this addictive act a cry for attention, to be rescued by mom, to be a victim to be loved. Paradoxically, they often find the opposite: loved ones distance themselves and get angry.

The truth is that we have the ability to naturally generate these neurotransmitters, but addicted people seek overstimulation that ends up destroying their lives.

It’s proven that a lifestyle change, working on self-love, acceptance, setting goals, and feeling supported by loved ones helps the person get out of this state of abandonment and loneliness.

Addictions seek to evade the present because the inner suffering is immense. In a large percentage, addictions are unresolved conflicts with our mother.

It’s the wrong way of asking mom for help. Since emotions are not expressed, attention is sought to be seen, loved, and welcomed. Alcoholism is self-rejection, a great feeling of devaluation that leaves the person "like a child." The environment does not trust them because they lacked mom’s affection.

Often, alcoholic people were unwanted children, even if just for a moment. Therefore, even if they later become very loved children, there remains an unconscious emotion telling the person: your father and mother do not truly love you, and all the love shown is false. Therefore, the person seeks to hurt themselves and be a victim to challenge the parents to "love" them. This is a transgenerational issue: addiction can even be a loyalty out of love for a family member excluded for the same reason. Also, it’s fear of facing negative emotional situations and being hurt. It’s a way to evade being a responsible adult and facing life.

The act of drinking is the same gesture a baby makes when breastfeeding: the hidden pleasure of wanting to feel "attached to mom." Alcohol contains large amounts of sugar, which transforms into the desire to DRINK MOM’S SWEETNESS.

The most important thing is that it can be healed. With deep personal work, it is possible to reconnect with the joy of living, forgive oneself, and forgive the childhood lacks. There are no bad people, only people who suffer.

To heal alcoholism, the first step is to recognize the pain, release it, and see it differently — always with the help of a good therapist to guide the person back to self-love.

Receive a hug from the heart and remember to share.

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