🌳𝗙𝗔𝗠𝗜𝗟𝗬 𝗟𝗢𝗬𝗔𝗟𝗧𝗜𝗘𝗦

Good morning, dear reader. In today's article, I want to talk to you about the deep impact that family loyalties have on our lives...

Grandmothers who died during childbirth... and a granddaughter who turns out to be infertile.

A grandfather who lost all his money... and a grandson who becomes miserly and hoards his.

Mothers who suffered abuse from their partners... and daughters who struggle to find love.

These loyalties can shape your life unconsciously—even if you don't know the story or the person.

These hidden conflicts come from an imbalance in the natural flow of giving and receiving within the family system.

✅️ We must give and receive in balance—love, possessions, respect, energy.

If someone gives too much and receives too little, a debt is created.

When parents expect their children to fill their own emotional gaps and give love they never received themselves, they create a debt against them.

It is unnatural for a parent to demand love from their child. That is not the natural order of the family system—just like a gardener cannot expect their plants to water and care for him.

If they were not nourished emotionally by their own parents, that was their story. But their children are not here to give them what they lacked.

✅️ What one generation leaves unresolved will be inherited by the next, which—innocently and unconsciously—will try to fix it.

This creates a chain of difficult or even tragic destinies.

Family traumas and injustices—whether internal or external—can manifest in many ways: illness, depression, suicide, toxic relationships, physical and mental disorders, difficulty finding a partner, inability to thrive, erratic behavior...

🔸 For example:
A man who was adulterous, abusive, or degrading toward his wife… someone must "pay" for that. Often, a grandson or descendant lives a life of unhappiness or repeatedly suffers betrayal and humiliation from women, as a way of "compensating" for what his ancestor inflicted on others.

In therapy, I’ve observed that when a grandfather was unfaithful, it is usually a grandson who ends up carrying the burden—sometimes even to the point of developing a chronic illness, or in extreme cases, losing their life.

✅ The debts are always paid. Always.

All lies and secrets will eventually rise to the surface to be resolved.

Murders, thefts, serious violations of respect... they resurface, and someone will have to face them.

🔸 Another real example:
Someone receives a great inheritance or privilege as a result of another family member’s early death, unjust suffering, or exclusion from the family. If the one who benefits does not "pay back" what was unearned, their descendants may carry that burden for them.

✅ Then there are the unspoken pacts:

A woman is unhappy out of loyalty to her mother's unhappiness—her resentment toward men, her anger at life, her pain.
And one of her daughters, out of blind love for her, will mirror that same unhappiness.

Because deep down, there’s an immense loyalty, a kind of blind love toward those who brought us into this world—even if we hate them, don’t speak to them, or have no relationship at all.

✅ What can I do if I suspect I have a family loyalty to an ancestor?

To begin with, no one is free of family loyalties, unspoken pacts, or unresolved tasks.

To begin untying the knots in the family system, it is essential—truly essential—to build your family genogram, your family tree, in as much detail as possible.

Know the names, dates of birth and death, any abortions, and especially any possible family secrets—because those secrets will inevitably reappear in the lives of later generations.

Receive a hug from the heart and don’t forget to share. 

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