💜🌿THE INABILITY TO RECEIVE SUPPORT🌿💜

 Good morning, dear reader. In today's article, I want to talk to you about the trauma behind people who are unable to receive support from others...

✨Your conditioning of “I don’t need anyone, I’ll do it all myself” is a survival strategy. And you needed it to protect your heart from abuse, neglect, betrayal, and disappointment by those who couldn’t — or wouldn’t — be there for you.

✨From the mother or father who was absent and abandoned you by choice, or who was never home after working three jobs to feed and house you.

✨From lovers who offered sexual intimacy but never offered a safe refuge that honored your heart.

✨From friends and family who ALWAYS took more than they gave.

✨From all the situations where someone said, “We’re in this together,” or “I’ve got you,” and then abandoned you, leaving you to pick up the pieces when things got real — leaving you responsible for both your part and theirs.

✨From all the lies and all the betrayals.

✨You learned along the way that you truly couldn’t trust people. Or maybe that you could trust people... but only to a certain extent.

✨In extreme independence, TRUST IS A PROBLEM.

✨You learned: If I never put myself in a situation where I rely on someone, then I won’t be disappointed when they’re not there or when they drop the ball… because they ALWAYS will. They will eventually drop the ball, right?

✨It’s even possible that generations of wounded ancestors before you taught you this protection strategy, intentionally.

✨Extreme independence is a preemptive strike against heartbreak.

✨So, you trust no one.

✨And you don’t trust yourself either — not to choose the right people.

✨To trust is to hope. To trust is to be vulnerable.

"Never again," you swear.

🌿But no matter how you dress it up and wear it proudly, as if this level of independence is what you always wanted to be, in truth, it’s your wounded, scarred, broken heart hiding behind a protective brick wall.

🌿Impenetrable. Nothing gets in. No harm gets in. But neither does love.

🌿Fortresses and armor are for those at war — or those who believe the war is coming.

✨It’s a trauma response.

🌿The good news is: trauma that is acknowledged is trauma that can be healed.

🌿You are worthy of having support.
You are worthy of having a true community.
You are worthy of love.
You are worthy of having your heart held.
You are worthy of being adored.
You are worthy of being cherished.
You are worthy of someone saying to you: “Rest. I’ve got this,” and actually following through.

You are worthy of receiving.
You are worthy of receiving.
You are worthy. You are worthy.

🌿You don’t have to earn it.
You don’t have to prove it.
You don’t have to bargain for it.
You don’t have to beg for it.

✨You are worthy.
WORTHY.

Simply because you exist.

Receive a heartfelt hug and don’t forget to share.

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